Getting Past the Angst

By Kim Hamer | December 11, 2009

Stress is a normal reaction. We all know that over time it can cause physical damage to our bodies and our brains. The good news is you don’t have to be THAT stressed out!

So here’s to distressing you stress!

There you are at your desk, or in your car (NOT DRIVING), trying to make the most of the few minutes you have. If you’re like me, you are wondering what you will have for dinner tonight, when you will have a chance to run to the REI to get the new long underwear you need cause yours has holes at ever seam juncture. You’re also making promises to yourself. “I will start _______ tonight. (For me, it’s my financial aid application). Then there are the holiday cards that need to be ordered, stuffed, stamped or addressed. If only you didn’t need…..sleep!

The good news is that you don’t have keep your shoulders up by your ears this holiday season. I can show you how to avoid that.

Ok first. Put it all away….for five minutes. Turn off the phone, close the office door, sit in the car.

Feel better already, yes?

Since the loss of my husband, I have practiced three techniques that have helped me walk through every stressful moment. Depending how stressed I am, these techniques have worked for me in varying levels. But they ALWAYS work!

1. LOOK AT ONE thing that is causing you stress. The school applications, the holiday dinner whatever it is, isolate it in your mind.

2. WORK THE RULE OF FIVE ” In five minutes, five days, five weeks, five months and five years, how much will what I do now matter?” If you don’t get your boss a present this year how much will it matter in five months? If you don’t get the long underwear, how much will it matter in five weeks? If you don’t finish the private school applications, how much will it matter in five years?

This question allows you to focus on what is important, avoiding all the bustling because now your energy if focused.

3. BREATH. I know, I know. You’ve heard it over and over again. But breathing can interrupt your stress response which in turn can make you more productive! Here is an easy one I use

1. Just like a baby, when you inhale, focus on your abdomen rising, not your chest or shoulders.

2. Inhale slowly for two counts

3. Exhale slowly, through your nose, for 3 counts.

To get further relaxation increase the number of exhale count to 4 or 5. This exercise has put me to sleep in doctor’s offices, cars and when I’m reading to my kids. (“I think she’s asleep. Not again! Mom, mom, wake up and finish reading!)

Now will these steps make your stress disappear? Probably not, Will they help you get more done? Maybe. Will they allow you to relax a little bit, take a step back and focus on what is important to you? You bet.

So here’s to a lower stress week!

Your PS (Private School) Action Plan For This Week:

Practice this NOW!!!