How’s Your Fakedar?
By Kim Hamer | February 25, 2010
How’s Your Fakedar?
Angelia Jolie has to sort through her friends and decide who is her friend simply because she’s “The Angela Jolie”. Her Fakedar is really good.
How’s yours?
Fake friends are the scourge of the rich, the famous and popular 8th graders.
You say “How silly it is!”
But you remember Janice right? You know… Jaaaaniiiiiccccccce, the “nice” girl, the one who always wanted to be with you?
And you remember your other friend saying that Janice only liked you because:
- you knew George and… she liked George or
- you had a hot new car and … she wanted to borrow that hot new car or
- you throw the most hot-diggines sleepovers and … she wanted to be able to say that she went.
She wasn’t in it for you, she was it for her own gain.
Ah but you are wiser now!
Your Fakedar (fake person radar) has dust on it. You know a real friend when you find one.
That Fakedar is so… yesterday.
Only you think that the admissions director at the private elementary or high school is so nice!
I mean she talked to you about your child and said things like “He sounds absolutely delightful.” and “How wonderful!”
She laughed with you when you shared the time he sanded, then painted the front passenger side of your in-laws car with oil based paint.
And when you expressed concern about his entering kindergarten or 7th grade, she reached out, gently touched your arm and told you it will all be ok.
And you said to yourself:
“Oh she’s so nice.
“I think we have a really good chance of getting in.
“I really like this school.”
She’s Janice in disguise.
Real friends = two way interest
Fake friends = it’s all about you.
An admissions director wants to get to know you. Which isn’t a bad thing at first, right? You are your second favorite topic, second… only to your child. (And totally normal too!)
The private school admissions director wants you to like them.
The private school admissions director wants you to want to go to their school.
They want you to think the world of them even if you DON’T get in.
Because it’s
GOOD BUSINESS
A Nightmare Conversation to the Admissions Director
You (talking to your friend): “We didn’t get in. And it didn’t matter anyway. They were so rude to deal with.”
A Dream Conversation to theAdmissions Director
You (talking to your friend): “We didn’t get in and I am so sad. They were so nice. The school was wonderful and the admissions director was so warm.”
Business 101 teaches:
Be nice and they will refer.
So which conversation will inspire your friends to try to get in next year?
Dust of the fakedar.
You’re a good person. Your family has a lot to offer the school.
Remember:
friendliness does not = private school acceptance
PROOF OF A GOOD FIT = PRIVATE SCHOOL ACCEPTANCE
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